Aeris
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Post by Aeris on Jun 24, 2016 21:34:36 GMT
So I actually have this exact same problem with my sister. Except she has a daughter to tend to when we visit...so a lot of the time she's not paying attention to anything other than her phone. It drives me nuts, because like you...I live over an hour away and I don't see her often. For a laugh (and maybe for real?) www.karenmichalson.com/a-spell-to-attract-attention/**That was kind of a joke** But maybe a spell, (I was thinking for attention, but that could go wrong quickly) so what about a spell to be heard? I found this one online. "I'm all ears Ingredients Mind Voice Group of friends(if they are in the same room as you) Description This is a spell for those friends or people who just won't listen. Spell Casting While thinking of your friends or a group of people, or while in the same room as them chant: For the (person/ people) who (listen/listens)but never (hear/hears) Make them see how it feels to be all ears" www.spellsofmagic.com/print_spell.htm?spell_id=8685Maybe add some of your own flair? An Orange candle for self expression? Or Black for banishing negativity? Maybe throw some herbs in for Irritability? Like Lavender, St. John's Wort, or Valerian? Or if you have a picture of you two, maybe cut it in half, and then bind it back together using white string, "What once was whole is now in pieces, bring back together what is needed. A friend free of distraction and hindrance, what is in pieces make completed." - (Sorry I just came up with that off the top of my head) Thanks for that funny "spell" Jess, it made me laugh a bit! I'm going to try that "all ears" spell in just a bit. I'll also try what you recommended! I have some paprika (for attention) and some rosemary (for healing relationships). I, unfortunately, don't have any printed pictures of us, but I thought of an alternative: writing our names on a flashcard and cutting it in half (possibly incorporate the herbs and spices into this process?) and then using hemp yarn (I don't have any white string) to tie it back together. Thank you for that idea!! Syka, I also agree with Kayla's advice. I also think that you should try this "all ears" spell found by Jess! Maybe it'll make your roommates realize your annoyance at being the only responsible roommate!
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Post by elementallycharmed on Jun 24, 2016 21:41:39 GMT
Yay! I'm glad you liked it! I swear sometimes I'm a google champion! (which is also why I use sources). And I feel like any spell can be tweaked for what you have, it's YOUR spell! <3 Please keep us posted on how everything turns out!! And good luck!
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Post by Kayla Maria on Jun 24, 2016 22:26:14 GMT
I'm such a practical witch I s2g most of my ideas aren't all that magical
But maybe a spell or charm to put your friend at ease. You mention they have anxiety (I do, too); maybe the reason he's on his phone is because he's aware of the time constraints when he visits, so he gets nervous, so he goes to something familiar and easier than irl interaction. In this case, since it's pride, you can make a quick bracelet you've whispered a determined blessing to, and get him to wear it (either tonight or tomorrow).
This way, you can also maybe suggest you all make some, for people you know or to give out at parade, and if everyone is making things/keeping their hands busy, they can't be on the phone!
Another way to sneakily do this is to suggest making desserts. Baking can bring out people's childishness, and again, a hands-busy activity.
You can also do a (small!) curse that you hope his battery runs out quickly. But that might be tricky because I don't know how to make that time-sensitive so it doesn't last
Again, not very sit-down-and-do-a-spell type things, more plans and then whisking magic into it as you go. So it might be helpful. I hope it goes well!
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sykax
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Post by sykax on Jun 26, 2016 22:48:27 GMT
So in reply to an earlier post of mine, I may have come to a decision. I'm moving out. It will take a couple of months for my to get my finances in line and find an apartment that's affordable and allows pets. But I feel it's the best option for my happiness and the friendship I have with my roommates. So any kind/in outraging words are appreciated. I'm super nervous and freaked out about even thinking about this.
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Post by sykax on Jun 30, 2016 0:45:28 GMT
Lately I feel so stuck. I can't seem to find any happiness. Every time I think I find a decent guy to talk with and see how things can turn out; they just stop messaging me or start dodging my phone calls. Most recently I went on a date where I thought things were going fine, so I leaned in for amiss and he backed away. later I apologized and ever since then he's been avoiding me. Like Idk whats going on but I'm over it.
ALSO! My call center job is just getting out of hand. We have two Middle Eastern people from Iran in our training class to make up hours and three people accused them of being terrorists! So I reported it and then a higher up had to sit in the back with the woman to make sure she wouldn't be harassed anymore. The girls that made the comments wanted to know why he was back there and then another girl said "I don't deal with faggots."
After feeling all that anger mixed with every other emotion I just had to miss work today. I still don't even know how I felt all those emotions...but my anger mixed in and I just couldn't handle being there today and I don't know about tomorrow.
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Post by elementallycharmed on Jun 30, 2016 13:25:18 GMT
That is so fucking twisted and backwards. This country is filled with racists and bigots. There is no excusing the behavior as ignorant, its blatant at this point. :/ I'm sorry you're dealing with that. I worked at two call centers for about 4 years, and I do NOT miss those days. :/ I hope things start to turn around for you soon.
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Post by Kayla Maria on Jun 30, 2016 16:00:24 GMT
Aww syka! I'm so sorry :[ none of that is pleasant at all If it helps, I've been having a series of dating failures recently too, though I haven't been too emotionally invested as they were just first dates/getting to know each other. But it's annoying to think you're hitting off with someone and they're just not into it. I'm honestly taking a break from it because it just got kinda exhausting, the lead up and then the disappointment, which is entirely of my own self-creation, also. Tbh I think it's a bit of a sign that's saying, look, outside happiness and love is all well and good and necessary, but you need to work on yourself a bit more. To which I'm like, WHAT DO YOU THINK IVE BEEN DOING THE PAST FIVE YEARS? However, things are as they stand. So I've been reinvesting that energy into other things: reading more, my cards, my pets, communication with longer, reliable friends, etc. But that's not easy. As for the call center.... that makes me so freaking angry. But you did the right thing, and by standing by them you are doing even more. The best thing that can come from this is maybe having a conversation with someone who is ambivalent about the subject and really giving them some insight as you explain your frustration etc. Sometimes things like these help me communicate with my parents about these issues and they leave thinking about things differently than before, with motivation to help continue that communication around them, and it's just a small-level intel that spreads the more people can be reached, you know? But don't also burden yourself with that if you don't have the time or energy <3 Something I might suggest, just because it helps me? We hear big scary words like "meditation" and "yoga" and "prayer" but I realized once I broke those down to the solitary practice of "breathing" and "stretching" and "talking casually to someone you hold faith in/a higher power with a lit candle warming your hands", they become a lot more compelling, and a lot easier. Hold someone in your hand that's close to you, breathe, light a candle, and just, vent. out loud or in your head. Then go through of list of things that are good in your life, that you're thankful for-- even silly things-- even if you can only find one. Then breathe until you're compelled to move and do something else. It really helps center me a lot of the time Sending you good vibes and love and hugs <3
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sykax
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Post by sykax on Jun 30, 2016 22:27:21 GMT
Thanks everyone! I really appreciate the kind words. And as bad as this sounds I hope I'm not becoming an empath. I'm not sure I could handle feeling everyone's emotions all the time.
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Post by Kayla Maria on Jul 1, 2016 13:31:03 GMT
Hun don't even worry about the empath thing. It's a blessing and a curse at the same time. My little sister has it worse than me, and crowds are really hard for her because she just feels constantly barraged by the energy of so many strangers.
I'm less so, but I have a bad case of being a people-pleaser (I've seen learned to stand up for myself more). I've been on a rollercoaster of an emotional journey since, with good experiences and bad, but I'm finally getting to a place where my high empathy doesn't drain me of the energy and time I need for myself. Everyone has their own journey to tread, and despite my struggles, I love myself as an empath today, because it really benefits what I want to be in life and what makes me happy.
But that's my own personal journey, and when you're in distress or a place where you feel unsupported, that can be SUPER EXHAUSTING.
So that doesn't sound bad at all! And remember to take everything a step at a time. We got you <3
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Post by sykax on Jul 3, 2016 18:32:19 GMT
So, last night at work I started vomiting blood and went to the ER. Apparently my stomach has been producing too much acid causing my stomach to bleed. I'm fine now other than the same head ache I got last night, and have to get my medications filled after the holiday. Hopefully this will stop whatever is going on in its tracks. Positive vibes are appreciated; as I still have to go to work because I couldn't get an excuse.
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Post by Kayla Maria on Jul 4, 2016 16:06:34 GMT
Syka noooo! I am so sorry lovely <3 Also WHAT THE FRICK IS WRONG WITH YOUR WORK GOING TO THE ER AND EXPLODING STOMACHS ISN'T A GOOD EXCUSE? If it weren't terrible for your health I'd say try and vomit up some more blood all over your supervisor's shoes but I have a very petty imagination and you shouldn't take it seriously. I'm going to send a health spell your way, I've been itching to do a spell but I haven't been inspired but now I know why. Do what you can to take care of yourself--cuddle your ferrets (or your friend's ferrets, I guess), animals do wonders for me at least. I would rec some herbs or tea or whatever but I'm not a doctor and don't know what would irritate what :[ Let us know if there's anything else we can do!
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Post by sykax on Jul 4, 2016 23:28:14 GMT
Thanks! I really appreciate it. I just finished a natural bath (Epsom salt, coconut oil, and a lavender mint bath bomb), not only does my skin feel amazing, but my headache is finally gone!
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sykax
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Post by sykax on Jul 5, 2016 22:36:36 GMT
Gosh I feel like I'm always bitching; sorry!~
But surprise BOTH of my roommates were home for most of the day and one has been home ALL day. Not shit was cleaned or anything. The sink is full, the trash is overflowing, the floors are shit, the living room is a mess, and I don't even know the last time their dog was taken out. Like seriously?! I understand being home and lazy (calling into work) but still you fucking live here; clean up after yourself!! Gods I can't wait till I can move out!
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Post by elementallycharmed on Jul 29, 2016 21:52:56 GMT
Time to bitch!
SO, I have an Aunt (my actual aunt's ex husbands widow) who I was really excited to get close with again, and learn more about the craft from. Well, my pregnant sister ended up moving in with her. LOOONG story short, she has thrown my sister out (over some crazy bs-she wants a 9 mo pregnant woman to scrub a fridge, something she-aunt-has never done before my sister moved in). So anyways the fight escalated and my cousin showed up with a gun & tazer and then they called the cops trying to kick her out without letting her have any of her stuff. The cops came and sided with my sister and told her she could get her things...you know like clothes for her about to be born daughter and what not.
So now, I am livid. I haven't reached out to the aunt, and I don't even know what to do. I'm furious, and as much as I want to physically rip her head off, I know that in the long run it won't do any good. I also know that she is heavy into the craft, and I was thinking of sending her an anonymous letter that only reads - Your actions speak louder than words, let your karma be swiftly served. – So mote it be.
Or something equally vague and dooming. I don't even want to curse her, I just want her to think she's cursed so that every bad thing that happens to her, she will think back to all the things she's done and wonder if she is cursed. I want her own belief in "a curse" to be the magic that fuels it. I'm just furious about her behavior and my cousins behavior.
Suggestions welcomed! I'm really upset about everything and my sister is due any day now. This is not the kind of thing she needs to be worrying about. :/ I just feel so helpless and I hate it.
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Post by sykax on Jul 30, 2016 17:53:35 GMT
Time to bitch! SO, I have an Aunt (my actual aunt's ex husbands widow) who I was really excited to get close with again, and learn more about the craft from. Well, my pregnant sister ended up moving in with her. LOOONG story short, she has thrown my sister out (over some crazy bs-she wants a 9 mo pregnant woman to scrub a fridge, something she-aunt-has never done before my sister moved in). So anyways the fight escalated and my cousin showed up with a gun & tazer and then they called the cops trying to kick her out without letting her have any of her stuff. The cops came and sided with my sister and told her she could get her things...you know like clothes for her about to be born daughter and what not. So now, I am livid. I haven't reached out to the aunt, and I don't even know what to do. I'm furious, and as much as I want to physically rip her head off, I know that in the long run it won't do any good. I also know that she is heavy into the craft, and I was thinking of sending her an anonymous letter that only reads - Your actions speak louder than words, let your karma be swiftly served. – So mote it be. Or something equally vague and dooming. I don't even want to curse her, I just want her to think she's cursed so that every bad thing that happens to her, she will think back to all the things she's done and wonder if she is cursed. I want her own belief in "a curse" to be the magic that fuels it. I'm just furious about her behavior and my cousins behavior. Suggestions welcomed! I'm really upset about everything and my sister is due any day now. This is not the kind of thing she needs to be worrying about. :/ I just feel so helpless and I hate it. Some fake war water could be fun. Like do the letter and late at night drive by and throw an uncharged bottle of war water at the front door to let her think another witch has it out for her.
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